Time and Values

In general, men tend to control women’s values, and women tend to control men’s time. Women often worry about or try to manage who their partners spend time with and how, while men often want to know what their partners are thinking and want them to follow their own way of thinking. This is thought to stem from differences in how security is felt in romantic relationships.

SIGHT (gaze) SMILE (smile) SKINSHIP (physical affection)

Gazing at the other person and listening while looking them in the eyes (“eye contact”), keeping a constant “smile” directed toward them, and giving light “physical contact,” like touching their hand or shoulder at small moments—by being mindful of these three things, it becomes easier to convey your feelings and to close the distance between you.

the suspension bridge effect

The “suspension bridge effect” refers to a phenomenon where physiological arousal—feelings like fear or nervousness—is mistaken for romantic passion. It’s said that when people share excitement or danger, they become more likely to feel affection for each other. Even if you don’t have a chance to cross a suspension bridge, why not try a haunted house or a roller coaster with someone you’re interested in?

Limits of social interaction

There are research findings that the maximum number of people with whom humans can maintain close relationships is about four to five. When a romantic relationship begins, interest in the new partner increases, and a great deal of time and energy is devoted to deepening that relationship, which reduces the time spent on friendships. As a result, relationships with all but a few people—excluding one’s romantic partner—tend to be neglected.

a higher pitch

According to research, people tend to perceive the voice of someone they have romantic feelings for as higher-pitched compared to others’ voices. This phenomenon occurs because hearing the voice of someone you like triggers a special response in the brain, heightening sensitivity so that you can focus more intently on that person’s voice.

Men focus on solving problems and achieving goals, while women focus on sharing feelings.

Women often use rich, expressive language in conversation to share emotions and feelings. Men tend to address goals and problems with more direct and concise words. Because of this gender difference, even when discussing the same thing, what’s conveyed can differ or fail to align.

Stress reduction

When you kiss, your body releases oxytocin, the “happy hormone.” Thanks to the effects of oxytocin, you feel comfort and calm, which in turn reduces stress. Kissing also helps strengthen the bond with your partner and enriches emotional communication.