Questions to deepen your bond as a couple! Conversation topics that will get lovers talking

Is it okay to be lovey-dovey in public?

It’s just a vague feeling, but I wonder if there are more couples who engage in PDA in big cities.

Maybe because lots of people gather there and a wider range of values tends to be accepted? It might be one of those “city life” things.

As long as it doesn’t make people around them uncomfortable, personally I’m totally fine with couples being as lovey-dovey as they want.

I also think the kind of affectionate dynamic like Kensuke and Akira Hokuto’s marriage—where it’s not just being mushy—is wonderful.

Since the definition of “PDA” is fuzzy anyway, it might be a good idea for couples to talk it through and decide what it means for them.

Are you jealous?

When you think about the meaning, you tend to pick the kanji for “to be jealous” (妬く), but somehow “to grill rice cakes” (焼き餅を焼く) feels more fitting, doesn’t it? What do you think? Watching a rice cake puff up as it grills makes you imagine a face swelling up in anger, so maybe “grilling rice cakes” really is the right expression after all. People who are very jealous or very possessive—in other words, they just can’t help worrying about the person they love.

Talking about that together as a couple sounds kind of fun, though.

Do you think it’s okay or not okay to use your phone’s GPS to find out where your partner is?

What was the most fun place on the date?

Let’s look back on your date memories and discuss which parts you found enjoyable.

By carefully recalling the places you went, it can also help you plan where you’d like to go in the future.

Since this also lets you learn about each other’s views on where you find the fun in a date, it seems like a good starting point for figuring out how to make your time together even more fulfilling.

It’s a question that not only reflects on happy memories from the past, but also helps connect them to a more fulfilling future.

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How often is the ideal contact frequency?

Have you ever watched AbemaTV’s “We’re… Dating!”? It’s an audience-participation show where couples with slightly unusual issues join to seek solutions.

In the episode titled “My boyfriend is way too controlling,” one of the MCs, Kamaitachi’s Hamaie, confessed, “That used to be me, too,” which sparked quite a buzz.

There were even comments that made the audience gasp, like “I want to know my girlfriend’s entire schedule” and “Call me when you get home.” How controlling are you? It’s a topic that could apply to almost any couple, right?

Which do you prefer: staying at home with your partner or going out?

We’d like to think that homebodies get along best with other homebodies and outdoorsy people with other outdoorsy people, but I believe there are plenty of cases where that’s not true.

Even among homebodies, there’s a big difference between those who want a day off doing nothing and those who enjoy staying in with DVDs and cooking.

And among outdoorsy types, people differ in how they plan a camping trip, and some aren’t into visiting shrines and temples, so it’s rare for opinions to line up perfectly.

Talking about these feelings as a couple could make for a really fun time.

Are you an outdoorsy person or a homebody?

What makes your heart skip a beat about your partner?

You know the comedian Koji Higashino, right? Well, he divorced and then remarried the same person.

This isn’t especially rare—unique actress Midoriko Kimura and comedian Hossyan are the same case.

When you’ve fallen for someone once, you can’t start hating them so quickly, can you? Have you ever felt your heart skip a beat even after you started dating someone? I’m sure you have, many times.

As your relationship deepens, you notice more of their good qualities.

Keep talking with each other and let yourselves feel even more butterflies!

What would you like your partner to call you?

How you address each other is an important factor that can greatly influence your relationship.

That’s why asking “How would you like to be called?” can feel a bit embarrassing, but it leads to a conversation that brings you closer.

Whether it’s “I want you to use my first name” or “I want a cute nickname,” the answer reflects the person’s personality and how they express affection.

Even if you’re shy at first, as it gradually becomes natural to call each other that way, the distance between you shrinks considerably.

Talking about it when your relationship has progressed can also create a deeper sense of trust.

This small change of deciding what to call each other can make your relationship feel all the more special.

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