“I want to know my partner better!” Do you ever feel that way? Actually, there are lots of perfect question ideas to help couples deepen their bond.
For example: “What do you want me to call you?” “What’s your ideal date?” “What made you fall for me?” Through casual conversation, you can discover new sides of each other and notice differences in your values.
In this article, we introduce questions you can use during dates or in your LINE chats to bring you closer as a couple.
Time with your partner is sure to become even more fun!
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Questions to deepen a couple’s relationship (1–10)
What would turn you off if your partner did it?
When you spend time together, it’s important not only to keep focusing on the other person’s good sides but also, at times, to help correct their bad ones.
How about exchanging opinions on those less desirable traits or actions that might make you lose interest? If you take the initiative to ask about your own shortcomings, it makes it easier for the other person to point things out, and it clearly conveys your willingness to meet halfway.
Since the most important thing is the desire to make the time you share comfortable for both of you, be careful not to use overly strong language when offering critiques.
What did you think of me before we started dating?
By learning your partner’s true feelings, you can come to cherish your current relationship even more.
It might take a bit of courage to ask about how they felt before you started dating, but discovering the gap between their first impression and their real thoughts, or the moment their feelings changed, makes your shared past much clearer.
The charm of this question is that it often brings out laughter as you reminisce and helps you honestly express your feelings—even if a little shyly.
Because you already have the reassurance of being together, it’s an easy topic to get excited about and one that can deepen your bond even further.
What’s your ideal date?
These are questions that delve into each person’s ideas about what an ideal date looks like.
You can keep it simple by asking about the place, or go deeper by asking about detailed situations—try exploring different directions of what “ideal” means.
From each person’s ideal, you can connect it to planning future dates, and it could also be a good opportunity to understand each other’s way of thinking.
It might be fun to plan the ultimate date by figuring out how to fulfill both of your ideals at the same time.
What was your first impression of your partner?
Even if you now care for each other as lovers, your first impressions might have been different when you first met.
How about looking back on how the two of you met and what your initial impressions were? If you had a good impression from the very first meeting, your current relationship may feel like destiny; if your first meeting was terrible but led to your current bond, you can enjoy seeing how the relationship changed.
By revisiting that first encounter together, you may be able to recall the circumstances and feelings of that time more vividly.
What made you fall in love with your partner?
This theme looks back on how your feelings changed from the first meeting up to becoming a couple.
It helps you remember who fell for the other first and how you both moved closer to each other.
You might know when you started liking your partner, but surprisingly, you may not really know how they came to feel the same about you.
While enjoying those fresh discoveries, these questions also help you clearly recall the memories you’ve created together.
What would you like the other person to fix?
To make the time you spend together more fulfilling, it’s important not only to focus on the good points but also to work on improving the not-so-good ones.
How about exchanging opinions on the things you’d like each other to change, as a way to deepen your relationship? If you start by asking the other person about your own shortcomings, it can make it easier to bring up topics that are hard to say.
Keep a genuine willingness to meet them halfway, be careful not to use overly strong language, and guide the conversation so you can spend your time together more comfortably.
When are the moments you feel happy being together?
To make the time you spend together truly fulfilling, the most important thing is being able to genuinely feel happy.
These questions are meant to help you exchange views about the moments when you feel that happiness.
By sharing what happiness means to each of you, you can sense what the other person values while spending time together.
Let’s make your time together more fulfilling by clearly sharing the parts that make each of you feel happy and cherishing those things.