Questions to deepen your bond as a couple! Conversation topics that will get lovers talking
“I want to know my partner better!” Do you ever feel that way? Actually, there are lots of perfect question ideas to help couples deepen their bond.
For example: “What do you want me to call you?” “What’s your ideal date?” “What made you fall for me?” Through casual conversation, you can discover new sides of each other and notice differences in your values.
In this article, we introduce questions you can use during dates or in your LINE chats to bring you closer as a couple.
Time with your partner is sure to become even more fun!
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Questions to deepen the relationship between two people (21–30)
What kind of clothes do you like?
Simply asking about clothing preferences is a topic that can reveal differences in each other’s taste and impressions, making the conversation lively.
You may discover unexpected sides of the other person, and the dialogue naturally deepens.
Because you also learn about their values and aspirations, it can help you build a closer relationship.
It often leads to picking out outfits for your next date, making each day as a couple even more enjoyable.
It can also serve as a reference for gifts or when you want to wear something the other person likes.
It’s an easygoing conversation theme that you can use to subtly learn their preferences while deepening your connection.
Are you happy about surprises from your partner?
If, after you’ve quietly moved the plan forward, enlisted friends and acquaintances, and even got the staff at the reserved restaurant to help, the reaction to the surprise party is, “I’m not really a fan of surprises…,” you’d be at a loss for words, wouldn’t you? So how about talking in advance about whether they like surprises? What counts as a surprise varies from person to person anyway.
“I’d be troubled if someone gave me a puppy,” versus “If it’s a surprise ring, I’m all for it!”—it sounds like a topic that could really get people talking!
Questions about the future (1–10)
If we were to live together, what kind of home would it be?
As you spend more time together, there may come a point when the two of you live in the same home.
This question is meant to exchange views about your ideal home for when that time comes.
By discussing details like the exterior and the floor plan—as well as which aspects each of you values most—you can get a clearer sense of the lifestyle you both want and each person’s particular preferences regarding a home.
It’s a question that not only considers creating a comfortable place for both of you, but also reveals how each of you is thinking about the future.
Where do you want to go together?
Among the time you spend together, there are surely situations where you go out somewhere.
Focusing on trips and outings like that, how about exchanging opinions on places you’d like to go together? The key point is that it’s a place you want to visit as a pair—not just somewhere you personally want to go, but also a place you’d like to take the other person, which opens up the conversation.
You could choose from various angles: a fresh experience in a place neither of you has been, feeling the scenery your partner once saw by visiting somewhere only one of you knows, and so on.
You might also revisit a place that holds memories for both of you and reminisce about those days—another direction that could really liven up the conversation.
Do you want to get married?
As the time you spend together grows, marriage may naturally come to mind as a possible future.
How about exchanging views on what each of you thinks about marriage, or even whether you want to get married in the first place? You might notice changes too—perhaps someone who didn’t have the desire to marry starts to feel they want to as time goes by.
Use these questions as a starting point to talk about what path you want to walk together and what your ideal future looks like.
Which do you prefer: to propose or to be proposed to?
Aspirations and ideals about proposals vary greatly from person to person.
Some want to be moved by a romantic production, while others feel it’s enough to quietly express their feelings.
Whether it’s “I want to be the one to propose,” “I want my partner to propose to me,” or “Either is fine, but I want it to be a special memory,” the choice reflects one’s views on love and life.
This topic might feel a bit embarrassing, but by talking about each other’s expectations and dreams, your vision of the future gradually takes shape.
It’s also enjoyable to share your ideal scene—whether you like surprises or prefer to decide naturally as an extension of everyday life.
It’s a warm, heartfelt conversation that lets you reaffirm your bond as a couple.
At about what age would you like to get married?
Talking about the age at which you want to get married is an important first step that helps align plans for the future.
Reasons vary—like “I want to get married by 30” or “I want kids, so sooner is better”—but behind them lie life goals, work styles, and views on family.
Even if your ideal ages differ, asking why the other person chose that timing can lead to a deeper understanding beyond mere numbers.
You may also discover new values during the conversation, such as wanting to cherish the present or prioritize the right timing.
It’s a sincere dialogue that becomes time spent reflecting on life’s milestones and looking toward each other’s future.