Questions to deepen your bond as a couple! Conversation topics that will get lovers talking
“I want to know my partner better!” Do you ever feel that way? Actually, there are lots of perfect question ideas to help couples deepen their bond.
For example: “What do you want me to call you?” “What’s your ideal date?” “What made you fall for me?” Through casual conversation, you can discover new sides of each other and notice differences in your values.
In this article, we introduce questions you can use during dates or in your LINE chats to bring you closer as a couple.
Time with your partner is sure to become even more fun!
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Questions about the future (1–10)
Do you want to live together before getting married?
Whether to live together before marriage is an important topic for couples to align their values more deeply.
By sharing a home, you naturally come to see each other’s daily habits, preferences, and style of dividing household chores.
On the other hand, some believe it’s better to enter married life without cohabiting, keeping things fresh—and there is no single right answer.
That’s precisely why using this topic as a starting point to carefully listen to each other’s views can deepen understanding.
It’s a constructive conversation that allows you to thoughtfully share values while imagining a future that grows out of everyday life.
What is your ideal family structure?
As we move toward the future, family structures will gradually change as well.
This question is about learning each person’s ideas and life plans regarding what kind of family structure would be ideal.
When talking about future family makeup, the conversation typically shifts to children, but let’s broaden it further to consider how we’ll relate to extended family, too.
Opinions may differ on whether one wants to live in a lively, large household or to find happiness in a more compact, close-knit arrangement.
What do you think things will be like in 10 years?
Not only thinking about present happiness but also about future happiness is an important point for making the time you spend more fulfilling.
How about sharing predictions and opinions on what the future might look like for each of you? Considering the near future—say, ten years from now—is also important, and it leads naturally to a discussion of how you’ll move toward that goal.
It’s a theme that lets you learn how the other person thinks while walking together toward a happier future.
Do you want children?
The question of whether to have children is an important topic that can’t be avoided when planning a future together.
It becomes a chance to discuss not only preferences like how many children you might want and when would be ideal, but also differences in parenting approaches and values.
Some people feel “I’m not sure yet,” and it’s important to respect that as a valid feeling.
Through this conversation, you can understand each other’s life plans and prepare to move forward in step.
Even if your answers don’t match, exchanging words thoughtfully can deepen trust and compassion.
It’s a serious yet warm conversation that lets you envision the future by aligning ideals, realities, and possibilities.
Can you do a long-distance relationship?
Perspectives on long-distance relationships are closely tied to how one approaches love and the strength of trust.
Some people believe that “time apart nurtures love,” while others feel that “not being able to meet is painful.” It’s not about which view is correct; what matters is understanding your partner’s pace and what makes them feel secure—such as how long apart starts to feel lonely or how often you prefer to communicate.
Even if you don’t have plans to be long-distance, discussing it hypothetically can spark conversations about each other’s values, levels of dependence, and sense of trust.
It’s a dialogue that imagines future challenges and asks whether your feelings can stay connected even when you’re apart.
Questions about the future (11–20)
What is something you can’t compromise on, even after getting married?
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When you’re dating, it’s fun to spend time imagining the future you’ll share, isn’t it? With that in mind, why not talk about what married life might look like? Marriage often means you’ll be spending even more time together than when you were dating.
That said, everyone has their own non-negotiables.
So try asking each other what you wouldn’t be willing to compromise on, even after getting married.
It can be a great chance to discover unexpected preferences and new sides of each other.
And before you tie the knot, you’ll also get to understand what your partner truly values.
In the future, I want to either be the one to care for my spouse at the end of their life or be cared for by my spouse.
As you walk through life with your spouse and grow older together, the day will come when one of you has to see the other off.
This question invites you to imagine that future and consider whether you would rather be the one who is seen off or the one who does the seeing off.
Wanting to care for your partner at the end or wishing to be cared for is important, but it also matters that the one who remains must live on alone—how you view that is a key point.
Consider which you would find harder: feeling lonely at being the one left behind, or feeling guilty about leaving your partner alone.
Which would you dislike more?