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Have you heard of the ultimate either-or questions? They’re two-choice questions where it’s hard to pick one, but you have to choose, and they can reveal a person’s values and spark conversation.
They’re perfect as conversation starters with friends or partners and for getting to know each other.
In this article, I’ll introduce a collection of ultimate either-or questions related to life and personal values.
There are plenty of prompts that will make you agonize over which to choose, so have fun giving them a try!
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Ultimate life and values choices (1–10)
If you could be one for just a day, which would you choose? A king or a celebrity?
It may seem like a dilemma, but it’s a question where the answer will likely be clear based on personal preference.
If you choose to be a king, you could command your subjects and do as much of what you like as you want.
If you choose to be a celebrity, you could thrive in a wide range of fields, such as acting, comedy, or singing.
For those who have dreamed of becoming either a king or a celebrity, this could be a fun choice question.
After choosing, it would also be good to ask why they made that choice.
You can enjoy lively discussions over amusing answers and unexpected perspectives behind their selections.
If you could be reborn, which would you choose? Human or animal?
If you could choose your next life, would you want to live as a human again, or as a free-spirited animal? Those who choose “human” might be drawn to the richness of encounters and experiences: expressing feelings through words, chasing what you love—there’s a unique kind of excitement to being human, challenges and all.
On the other hand, people who choose “animal” may long to live freely in nature.
It sounds nice to be like a dog or cat and be doted on by family, or to become a bird and soar through the sky—there’s romance in that, too.
The fun of this question is that your choice reveals what makes you feel happy.
It’s a dreamy topic and a classic either-or that’s easy to enjoy in a lighthearted conversation.
If you could become one, which would it be? A wealthy person who is disliked, or a popular person who is poor?
People who choose “a hated rich person” may have a pragmatic mindset: with money, you can live freely and do what you want.
Even if relationships are a bit dry, they’re the type who value financial leeway for hobbies, dreams, and future security.
On the other hand, those who choose “a beloved poor person” hold the belief that connections and trust are true treasures.
Even without money, being welcomed with smiles and having relationships that support each other in tough times may feel like the greatest happiness.
Both have pros and cons—there’s no single correct answer.
That’s why this question can prompt you to reflect on “What is happiness?” It’s a thought-provoking either-or that invites you to face your values.
Which matters more in love: love or money?
A question that makes your heart skip a beat: the ultimate either-or.
We all know both matter, but if you force yourself to choose one, your values start to reveal themselves.
Those who choose “love” are the type who treasure the comfort of mutual understanding and the time spent laughing together above all else.
Even when things get tough, they may be drawn to a relationship where the two of you can overcome challenges together.
On the other hand, those who choose “money” tend to be practical and steady.
With a stable life comes peace of mind and an easier time planning for the future—and that way of thinking is perfectly valid.
There’s no right answer; both are important.
Let this question be a springboard to talk about what you truly seek in a relationship.
Which do you prioritize: sleep or appetite?
Sleep and appetite, both counted among the three fundamental human desires.
Choosing between them can seem difficult, right? In fact, the two are closely connected: when your sleep time gets shorter, your body tends to stay in a constantly hungry state.
By the way, data shows that people who sleep less than five hours are nearly 1.5 times more likely to become obese than those who sleep five hours or more.
With that in mind, it might seem better to prioritize sleep.
That said, the choice between sleep and appetite is ultimately up to you.
Which would you choose if you could gain a special ability? The power to read future events or the power to read people’s minds?
The ability to read future events is appealing for the peace of mind that comes from knowing what will happen in advance.
It might help you avoid failure and seize opportunities more easily, but there’s also the fear of knowing too much.
The ability to read people’s minds could reduce misunderstandings in relationships by revealing what others truly think.
However, you might also learn things you’d rather not hear.
Do you choose peace of mind, or deeper connection? Which would you pick? It’s a short but engaging either-or question that clearly divides values.
Which would you prefer: a long but ordinary life, or a short life that’s more fulfilling than anyone else’s?
This question makes you reflect on how you want to live your life.
Let’s pit two extremes against each other: wanting to live a long life even if it’s ordinary, versus wanting a fully satisfying life even if it’s short.
It could reveal differences in how people think—whether they wish for calm, peaceful days or exciting, stimulating ones.
It might also be interesting to have everyone clash over their ideas and find mutual compromises.
Another noteworthy point is the ambiguity of the terms “longevity” and “short life” in the question; discussing how many years each person imagines for those terms would likely liven up the conversation.
