[Ultimate Either-Or] A great conversation starter and a chance to get to know each other!
Have you heard of the ultimate either-or questions? They’re two-choice questions where it’s hard to pick one, but you have to choose, and they can reveal a person’s values and spark conversation.
They’re perfect as conversation starters with friends or partners and for getting to know each other.
In this article, I’ll introduce a collection of ultimate either-or questions related to life and personal values.
There are plenty of prompts that will make you agonize over which to choose, so have fun giving them a try!
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Which would you rather support: your favorite idol who seems happy and married, or your favorite idol who stays single for life but seems unhappy?
The ultimate either-or question—“A favorite who gets married and looks happy, or a favorite who stays single for life but seems unhappy: which would you support?”—might be the perfect theme for our era, where “oshi-katsu” (supporting your fave) has become a common term.
Especially with idols, people’s enthusiasm can cool after they get married.
Wanting your fave to be happy, yet not wanting them to belong to someone else—that complicated feeling may be unique to oshi culture.
However, if your stance is that you’ll get married and be happy, but you want your fave to stay single even if it makes them unhappy, that’s far too selfish—so it’s time to rethink your attitude.
When playing games, the controller is malfunctioning or the screen is cracked.
For anyone who plays games, the ultimate either-or—“a faulty controller or a cracked screen”—is a real dilemma.
It depends on how cracked the screen is, but if you can’t see anything at all, then a perfectly working controller is pointless.
On the other hand, even with a pristine screen, you won’t be able to play as intended if the controller is acting up.
If we’re being completely rational, the choices boil down to either getting it repaired or giving up.
But try thinking it through while imagining there’s a game you really want to play right now.
Which would you rather have: a time machine or a Anywhere Door?
This question asks you to choose between two of Doraemon’s most iconic gadgets, assuming you could actually use one: Would you rather use a time machine to travel to the past or future, or a Anywhere Door to freely go wherever you like? The key point where answers tend to diverge is whether you want to visit unknown past events, see never-before-seen future landscapes, or quickly reach faraway places that would otherwise take time and effort.
People’s responses reveal what they most want to see.
If the unlimited range of movement makes it hard to choose, narrowing the travel range in the question might make it easier to consider which option is more appealing.
Which would you rather live in: a haunted house or a house full of cockroaches?
This is a question about a house that inevitably comes with an unpleasant condition: if you had to live there, would you choose one full of ghosts or one full of cockroaches? The answer depends on whether you believe in ghosts and whether you’re good or bad with insects.
The number that appear is also a key factor— even people who can tolerate bugs might find it tough if there are too many.
You might not want to think about it, but try imagining what it would be like to live together and which would be easier to get used to as a housemate.
After closing time, which would you rather spend the night in: a haunted house or a graveyard?
It’s a question of which you’d choose if you had to spend time in a situation that feels close to encountering ghosts: a haunted house or a cemetery.
Some people might be able to accept that a haunted house is staged, but the way it’s designed to be eerie to heighten the surprises is an off-putting point.
And while a cemetery has the open feel of being outdoors, it can start to seem closer to the real thing than a haunted house.
Whether you judge by how creepy it looks or by the likelihood of running into something real, this topic seems to reveal what, exactly, you find frightening.
In conclusion
It was a tough ultimate either-or question about life and values—so which did you choose? I think ultimate either-or questions can be used in all sorts of situations, like conversation starters, ways to build rapport, or killing time on a drive.
Be sure to enjoy asking all kinds of questions!